Ba bangata ba kholisehile hore ba nang le matla a ho laola batho ba ka khona ho laola, ka mokhoa o itseng, boemo leha e le bofe. Batho ba bang ba beha moelelo o fosahetseng ka ho feletseng mohopolong ona, ka hona, ke habohlokoa ho utloisisa ka ho qaqileng se boleloang ke ho itšoara. Mohlala o motle ka ho fetisisa oa basebelisi ke bana ba sebelisang maqheka a likete ho finyella seo ba se batlang.
U ka utloisisa lentsoe "ho laola" joang?
Ba bangata ba amahanya taba ena le thetso, leshano, tlhahisoleseding e se nang 'nete. Ho na le likhopolo tse ngata tse tla etsa hore ho khonehe ho fumana setšoantšo se pharaletseng. Lentsoe "ho laola" le bolela'ng - ke tšusumetso ho motho ea nang le maikutlo a ho laela, ntle le tsebo ea hae, ka morero oa ho laola boitšoaro ba hae le menahano ea hae . Tšusumetso e etsa sohle se matleng a hae ho etsa hore motho a etse seo a se ratang. O sebelisa tse ikhethang tsa psyche le mefokolo ho kholisa motho hore o entse qeto ka boeena, ntle le mabitso.
Kamoo u ka sebelisang batho kateng - psychology
Litsebi tsa kelello li sebelisa tlhaloso ea khopolo ena ka mokhoa o motle - "likhoele tsa moea," tseo ka tsona u ka bapalang ka thuso ea tsebo. Hangata, manipulator e ama kapa e sebelisa litšobotsi tse joalo: boikhohomoso, boitlhompho, kutloelo-bohloko, tšabo, joalo-joalo. Batho ba bangata ba sebelisa thoriso e le sesebelisoa sa ho qhekella, se thusang ho finyella boikutlo le ho baka maikutlo a itseng. Ena ke sebaka se lokiselitsoeng ho nka khato e eketsehileng.
Kelellong, ho na le lihlopha tse 'maloa tsa ho qhekella, tseo batho ba li sebelisang bophelong ba letsatsi le leng le le leng. A re hlahlobeng e 'ngoe ea tsona:
- Ho qhekella khoebong. Tabeng ena, boemo bo nkoa ha motho a sebelisa litšebeletso tsa motho kapa lihlahisoa, a sebelisa mekhoa ea ho fumana litheolelo kapa melemo e meng.
- Ho qhekella ka lapeng. Mona, likamano li boleloa, joaloka pakeng tsa monna le mosali, joalo ka pakeng tsa batsoali le bana, le beng ka bona.
- Ho sebetsana le thuto, thuto le ho hōlisa . O sebelisoa likarolong tsohle tsa bophelo: sekolong, univesithi, joalo-joalo.
- Ho sebetsana le mecha ea phatlalatso. Kajeno, bo-ralipolotiki le lipalo tse ling ba li sebelisa ka bohlale, tseo ka thuso ea thelevishene, likoranta, Inthanete, li tlisetsang batho ba bangata seo ba se hlokang
tlhahisoleseding, e seng nnete e le nnete. - Ho qhekella sehlopheng. E bolela ho buisana le metsoalle, basebetsi-'moho, joalo-joalo.
Lipontšo tsa ho qhekella
Ho na le litekanyetso tse 'maloa tse tla thusa ho lemoha tšusumetso e itseng, joaloka ho qhekella:
- tšusumetso e utloisisa ka ho hlaka seo a se batlang le kamoo a ka se finyellang kateng;
- tšusumetso e pata ka boomo lipakane tsa eona le litakatso tsa tsona ho tsoa molemong oa ho qhekella;
- Motho ea ntseng a sebelisoa o nka boikarabelo bo feletseng ba boemo boo.